Parents – Scenarios

Parents – Scenarios 

My son has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and has a Statement of Needs supported by the Local Authority (LA) Special Needs Service. He attends his local mainstream school and has been doing well for a while. He is in Year 4 and loves maths and technology. He is our only child and I must say I tend to give him a lot of attention at home. He is not short of love and affection. We go out on day trips over the weekend and his father, who works away for long periods of time, will invite us over for a week at a time when he is offered vacation from work. It is difficult living apart but we have little choice, he has been posted abroad. My son adores his father but when he is about to leave he gets agitated and returned to school one day particularly defiant of his favourite class teacher. We go abroad twice a year and I feel it’s only natural we get together as a family – it’s the right thing to do and particularly beneficial for our son. I mean, he needs his father.

Today, the Head teacher wrote to me to explain he is quiet worried that my son’s behaviour has been aggressive and he appears not to listen to instructions. On speaking to the SENCO at the school, I am surprised that he has been spending 4 hours a day, each day, outside the Head teacher’s office for the last month and I have not been informed. He has been doing some work but is falling behind in lessons. I requested a meeting with the Head teacher but he has asked me to liaise with the SENCO and cannot meet me for a face to face meeting. He has further explained that my son’s attendance is low (92%) and feels the need to involve the Welfare Officer. I mean, I feel lonely and frustrated, I have always followed school rules and feel I am a supportive parent. The Head teacher has always offered me to go abroad when I needed. What shall I say to the Welfare Officer? The Head teacher has written to me explaining that if my son’s behaviour does not improve, he will have little choice but to exclude him for a while.

I feel this is unfair and need help.

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